Sex and the City
Don't Ask, Don't Tell
TV Flash files “Don't Ask, Don't Tell” as hour 42 of 94 in the TV Flash guide — Sex and the City (1998–2004) on HBO, season 3, episode 12, aired 2000-08-27, 30 min.
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How this hour is filed
This leaf is S03E12: listed hour 42 of 94 in the Sex and the City guide, hour 12 of 18 in season 3. It aired 2000-08-27 (30 min). The listed hour before it is “Running with Scissors” (S03E11). Next is “Escape from New York” (S03E13).
Catalog log
Broadcast listing — not a TV Flash recap.
Frustrated with being single and only being hit on by talking sandwiches, Miranda tries out multi-dating where she learns being a corporate lawyer isn't doing any favors for her sex appeal. When she pretends to be an airline stewardess though, she catches a date with Harris, an emergency room doctor. The morning after one of her spark-filled nights with Harris, Miranda cuts her finger, only to learn that Harris isn't a doctor after all. Instead of fessing up to her own impersonations, Miranda acts disgusted and tells Harris to leave. Meanwhile, the girls go out on the eve of the Charlotte's wedding, for her last night as a single woman. Everyone is totally stunned by Charlotte's admission that she and Trey haven't had sex yet. But after more drinks than she can handle, Charlotte shows up at Trey's place ready to get busy. Unfortunately though, things don't work out in bed for Trey, and Charlotte gets a little nervous. Carrie's nerves are also getting the best of her as she considers whether to tell Aidan about her affair with Big. Just minutes before Charlotte's wedding, Carrie drops the bomb. Aidan is devastated and walks off. At the wedding, Charlotte gets last minute jitters about Trey's sexual under-performance, but Carrie calms her down with a white lie, and Charlotte walks down the aisle. Aidan shows up after the wedding and says he loves Carrie, but knows he will never be able to let go of the fact that Carrie cheated. Carrie breaks down crying, but takes some comfort in knowing that at least she has three friends who love her no matter what she does.
Viewer FAQ
Where does Don't Ask, Don't Tell sit in the Sex and the City guide?
S03E12 is listed hour 42 of 94 — hour 12 of 18 in season 3, season 3 episode 12.
When did Sex and the City S03E12 air?
Don't Ask, Don't Tell aired 2000-08-27 and is listed at 30 minutes.
Where should I start?
Season 1, episode 1. The voiceover and the four-silhouette contract are the whole machine.
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