Sex and the City
What's Sex Got to Do with It?
TV Flash files “What's Sex Got to Do with It?” as hour 52 of 94 in the TV Flash guide — Sex and the City (1998–2004) on HBO, season 4, episode 4, aired 2001-06-17, 30 min.
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How this hour is filed
This leaf is S04E04: listed hour 52 of 94 in the Sex and the City guide, hour 4 of 18 in season 4. It aired 2001-06-17 (30 min). The listed hour before it is “Defining Moments” (S04E03). Next is “Ghost Town” (S04E05).

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Broadcast listing — not a TV Flash recap.
At drinks with the girls, Carrie announces that she has had a "mind-blowing" orgasm with Ray. She confides that she usually doesn't experience that kind of orgasm with someone she doesn't love. She wonders: "How much of sex is the connection?" Samantha has some news of her own: she is in a real "relationship" -- with Maria. She tells the girls that Maria has opened her eyes to the joys of "making love" with an emotional connection. Charlotte wonders why she can't "have the sex and the relationship" with Trey. She worries that Trey will never ask her to move back in to their apartment, even though their sex life is going so well. After Trey asks Charlotte to "measure his John Thomas," Charlotte storms out of the apartment. But Trey shows up at Charlotte's apartment the next day to ask her to move back in with him, and she accepts. Miranda, on the other hand, has sworn off sex. She says that she can't cope with another bad date - she is on strike. Anyway, what is a man when you can have a relationship with a delicious eclair? Carrie tries to bring her relationship with Ray up to speed with the sex, but whenever she tries to talk with Ray, he can't seem to focus on anything other than his music, or getting her into bed. She decides that she is going to have to hold out for both: the mind-blowing sex and the relationship.
Viewer FAQ
Where does What's Sex Got to Do with It? sit in the Sex and the City guide?
S04E04 is listed hour 52 of 94 — hour 4 of 18 in season 4, season 4 episode 4.
When did Sex and the City S04E04 air?
What's Sex Got to Do with It? aired 2001-06-17 and is listed at 30 minutes.
Where should I start?
Season 1, episode 1. The voiceover and the four-silhouette contract are the whole machine.
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